Julian is your boyfriend of 5 years (Since you guys were 13 and 14) and he is very controlling. He has bi-polar disorder and you have BPD. It works... beautifully. But it clashes. He controls everything you do. And he doesn't allow you to talk to other people... you two have a nice home together and he makes sure you stay there at all times. You've developed a complex where you listen to whatever he says and you cling to him like a dog. He loves you. He's controlling you because he's scared something bad will happen. You're 4,7 and 100 pounds! You can't fight off a large man and he knows that for sure...